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samuel’s birth story

Remember, I told him, try and light the fire before I get there.

You see, it would be mid November and chances were I would be faced with shooting at night, or something resembling that in the late afternoon or early morning. The bulbs in their house couldn’t be trusted and I knew we wouldn’t get the photographs we were after with flashlights and the glow from an overactive iphone. So water birth by firelight it was. Lovely.

But then Alex gives me a call about 5pm, sounding incredibly calm but insistent. He says, you best get over here. Things are happening. And quickly.

The camera’s prepped. I’ve gone into “Action” mode (which consists of me brushing my hair and putting my shoes on) and I am ready to go. No hanging about. There’s no time. This is baby #3 and Polly’s got form for swift labours.

Sluggish Guildford traffic has other plans for me. It wants me to sit in stationary, ironically-named rush hour traffic, tapping the wheel, glancing at the clock, noticing that minutes passing = cm dilated.

But a break in the traffic, a short cut I know, and I arrive. It’s cold outside and it’s dark inside. Dry kindling neatly stacked in the hearth. No fire. One bulb.

But all is forgiven, because Alex barely had chance to fill the pool. This baby is not hanging around and it is up to me to make it work. Not the labouring. The really hard work is up to Polly, with the ever-present, ever-calming presence of Alex standing by. Plus I walk in to find a dream duo of midwives from the Royal Surrey Home Birth Team. We are all in safe hands.

Literally 20 minutes after I put my bag down and to the sound of Samuel Barber’s Agnus Dei, baby Samuel enters the world. And my word. He is quite, quite beautiful.

The room appears lighter, and brighter. Because Polly glows, the water glitters and Samuel brings his own little light with him.

surrey home water birth // baby samuel arrives

He is big and healthy and a boy! Proving the guesswork all wrong, and delighting his parents that now have a trio of boys to share their lives with.

To watch the full birth story, click on the video slideshow below. (If you’re a Google Reader reader, or following on an RSS feed, you’ll need to click here to view.)

It really is an incredible privilege to be trusted enough to capture such a wonderful, intimate moment in the life of a growing family. For me, birth photography has been a personal adventure and I adore every heart-racing moment of it. It gives me the ideal opportunity to do what I love most – tell a story. I get to tell a family story and then return it to them, for them to keep, and treasure, and tell over and over again.

So thank you, so so much, to Alex & Polly and their 3 wonderful boys for welcoming me so warmly into your home and your lives.

You were brought into my life by coincidence, a chance remark, and those beautiful coincidences continued. Because when I went to see the proud parents again, for their very first look at the images from Samuel’s birth, Alex put the radio on. We sat and chatted and cooed over their youngest. And when the time came for me to press play on the slideshow, we heard the heartbreaking strings of Samuel Barber’s music all over again, at just the right moment.

I wonder what beautiful music will be playing when they have a girl? I hope I am there to listen, to see again, and to tell the next beautiful chapter in their story for them.

         
 
 
Katie Jones

Kate you are so talented! These are beautiful and so special.

I love your birth stories, Kate. You do an amazing job of them.

Aaahhhh just too wonderful. You are the master at capturing light and emotion. Such moving pictures i’m sure the family will treasure forever.

second child syndrome

I am a second child. I am also the middle one. Woe is me.

I jest. A little.

Yes, perhaps there are issues associated with this. Yes, I am aware of them. Because sandwiched between the older, only brother and younger, cuter sister you often find yourself occupying the no-man’s land of filial interest.

So there really is no excuse for me inflicting the second child syndrome on the younger of my two very favourite little ladies. Sophie couldn’t blink, cut teeth, crawl, totter, walk, laugh, or cry, without my shutter clicking and capturing it. But lovely Lucy, the blonde-haired, blue-eyed gummy wonder has, to be frank, largely escaped the camera.

Until, that is, hot chocolate at the tea shop this morning when I discovered, as I always suspected, that Lucy is a natural.

little lucy // guildford baby photographer © kate griffin photography 2011

No less loved than the first, I promise. Time passes and diaries fill and friends with two children have to face the week with a lot more structure than one. Not always time for the last minute, dash out the door, “shall we do this?” of old. 2012 will be the year of planning. I have written that down in my diary. It must now come to pass.

So let that be a lesson to me. Just take the pictures. Don’t wait for the perfect time, with the perfect light or the ideal moment. Because all too quickly they will grow up. That always seems to happen, especially when we’re not looking.

Or you are looking, but so often, you just don’t recognise the differences. The way their smile changes a little every day, and all of a sudden you’ve lost something to an inconsistent memory. Much better to use a memory card and be able to look back on a photograph.

For Christmas, the girls receive books from their Aunty Boeuff (the name Sophie gave me when she couldn’t wrap her mouth around Griff, which is the name my friends call me. And perhaps others, but they are polite enough to wait for me to leave the room first). The girls are fed well, clothed every day and find a new toy at every turn – so, for me, it makes perfect sense for them to receive my favourite thing as their gift from me. I don’t think there is a better present to give, but I am biased.

Selfishly, I enforced the early opening of presents so that I could enjoy them enjoying them. Sophie loved her set of Oliver Jeffers books, hardbacks of course. Beautiful illustrations and wonderful, warm, humorous stories to enjoy before bedtime. And over hot chocolate in the morning too. I didn’t complain.

For Lucy, I picked my absolute favourite ever children’s book. Ever. In the whole world. A recently reissued hardback (of course) edition of The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe. Written by C.S. Lewis and dedicated to a much loved Lucy, it was perfect for my own much loved Lucy.

I hope that it sits silent, gathering dust, patiently waiting on a bookshelf, waiting for just the right moment for her to read or be read to, because I know she will fall in love with it, like I did. Like I still do.

Beautiful, wonderful, actual books. Gorgeous little worlds in papery cases.

Dear Father Christmas, you can keep your Kindle.

 

 

         
 
 

11.11 book group // book 4.11 // review

God I am stubborn.

Because despite a summer holiday (and now Autumn) sized hole in the middle of my book group blog posts, I am ploughing on. So perhaps less group, more personal challenge, I am going to get 11 books read and reviewed in 2011. Which means, I’ll be going through them without the originally intended monthly gap, and instead letting my reading, reviewing, then reading again flow with a bit more ease.

So if you love to be immersed in the printed worlds of other imaginations, keep your eyes open for the book group blog posts. They may come along erratically, but they will be along.

Here’s one review, long overdue, but recently featured in the gorgeous online dashing magazine. It’s here to get the ball rolling and blow away the book group tumbleweed.

We live in a digital age, but I read in a physical one. So there are some books, written by storytellers I already adore, that I open with great expectation – I treat them well, hold them gently and read them with tender, slightly obsessive, loving care.

And then there are some books that creep up on you, unknown, unassuming but full of promise. My rules of engagement with a book go out the window then, because I just can’t help myself. They come everywhere with me, get tucked into bags, bashed slightly, suffering creased spines and dog-eared pages.

One of those love it, lose yourself in it books is Little Gods by Anna Richards. Her first novel, it is spiked with colour, character and charm. Enthused with wit, dark humour and an unexpected warmth that swaddles the painful plotlines, making them just barbed enough to affect us, without overwhelming the reader with sadness. I love a book that swallows me whole and spits me out at the end having experienced something visceral. It starts with an explosion that rips through the street “like a birth,” and we carry that unsettled sensation throughout. From the very beginning you feel this book, as well as reading it. Aren’t all the best stories a felt experience?

Anna Richards’ debut is a literary world that I loved to live in, populated by rich, interesting characters and darkly comic lives. Little Gods tells the tall tale of Jean, described as freakishly large and cumbersome, a girl who does not fit the life she is born into. Her mother, Wisteria, conceives her not out of love, or even youthful foolishness, but a cruel desire to condemn a wounded soldier to an unhappy marriage. It’s a start in life that signals a childhood of abuse lived in a vacuum of kindness and love – so when she flourishes into a person of great tenderness, the truth of her beginning is even more remarkable.

Jean, together with her effortlessly beautiful friend Gloria, stride across the ocean to follow or find love. Stumbling, our heroine hopes to create a Jean-shaped space to exist and love in, but with mixed success. You see, moving across borders changes nothing but the view. We watch the how the dips and swells in her relationship with Gloria depict the politics of friendship, revealing how we often define ourselves by the people we surround ourselves with. So much of what Jean expects from her own life is in contrast to the easy attraction that the world feels for Gloria. Even though “everyone should be adored, in some small way, some time” when Jean’s heart is shattered it’s easy to question this sentiment. For the second time in her life, she suffers a devastating explosion – this rips through her emotional core, rather than reducing the world around her to rubble. But we continue to cheer for Jean – she becomes our champion, a fighter for the dispossessed, the displaced and the unloved.

Do yourself a favour, pay yourself a little kindness and read, love, and live in Little Gods for a little while.

Way back when the 5th book was announced, it had been something I was holding onto, waiting for the perfect moment to be able to sit down and devour. But there is never a perfect moment and time slips by without you realising, or even looking up to catch the seasons change and the leaves fall.

little ballerina // surrey child photographer // © 2011 kate griffin photography

Here is my book group model, now nearly 3, and well on her way to being a prima ballerina. She has the good toes perfected. And a very healthy giggle. I forget now what she was laughing at – but it doesn’t matter. What does, is that I was there to capture it.

A review of Toni Morrison’s A Mercy coming soon. And it will have to be very soon. There are 6 books to follow it before I turn the page on 2011.

 

         
 
 

ezra’s birth story

I’ve always known I’d love it. Call it a gut feeling. And this not-insignificant gut of mine knows it’s feelings.

From hearing the birth stories of friends, to watching open-mouthed and teary-eyed as one was born every minute on TV, I just knew that I would adore photographing the first moments of someone’s life.

Every time the phone rings, or buzzes with a text, you jump with expectation (and a little nervous energy) to see whether this is it. Whether this is a grab your camera, jump in the car, prepare for something amazing moment. But this first time, mine and theirs, you ready yourself for a wait. Because baby #1 is always late, right? Creeping past the due date, making you twiddle your thumbs, watch the clock and tick off the past due days on the calendar.

Wrong.

5 whole days early, mercifully after Downton had already finished on a Sunday night (how thoughtful), I got a text on Monday evening which read “…crampy again – assuming this is contractions but don’t really have a clue!”

One restless night later, Matt calls, invites me over and later welcomes me into his home where I become witness to something amazing, photographer of a little miracle, storyteller of a much anticipated arrival – a baby girl born in the water, warmed by Juliet’s heart and hands.

newborn in mother

Beautiful baby Ezra. Hello my lovely. How wonderful to meet all 7lbs 11.5oz of you.

If you’d like to read all about Juliet’s experience hypnobirthing, then just click here. But to witness the full birth story, watch the slideshow below. Be brave. Go fullscreen because this is a PC rated birth story. Nothing from the business end of proceedings to be seen here.

(If you’re a Google Reader reader, or following on an RSS feed, you’ll need to click here to view the story.)

I’d like to say a huge, heartfelt thanks to the wonderful women of the Royal Surrey’s Homebirth Team. Thank you for showing me what incredible work you do on a daily basis. Thank you for creating a calm, kind and caring atmosphere for Ezra to emerge into. I’m quite sure that the work of such dedicated midwives is not recognised nearly enough.

And of course, thank you so much to Juliet and Matt, the wonderful new parents who cooked up this gorgeous bundle between them and trusted me enough to capture her first breath for them. It was a privilege and an experience that I’ll never forget – I hope these images will always help you remember the little details and the big moments of the day.

 

 

         
 
 
Sarah Thomas

Quite simply that moved me to tears.

I promised myself i wasn’t going to read any blog posts this week… but I couldn’t miss this one. So, so SO beautiful.

Incredible, powerful yet tender images. You made me cry half way through. These will mean so much to them for the rest of their lives. Beautiful work.

Cerys

Simply beautiful

Have just sat here wide-eyed, open-mouthed and teary – was sobbing by 1:20 because all the memories came flooding back. I always feel sorry for the guys who must feel so helpless! What an amazing job you’ve done with recording this for them xxx

That was so so so beautiful. I love the kettle into the pool shot. They are all gorgeous though. Wow.

Beautiful! X

Laura Virgoe

Just BEAUTIFUL – now where are the tissues? – I need lots! xxx

Just stunning Kate..they will treasure these..you captured every moment so beautifully

Glad you finally got to do this Kate. Think your gut feeling was right – you have definitely got a feel for this type of work. They are beautiful photos.

Wonderful. And I mean that I am full of wonder at the beauty of these. Such emotion, you have of course captured it all beautifully. Well done my friend x

Kate, this is breathtaking. So many beautiful tender captures.

Claire Penn

Wow…. incredible photographs Kate. You’re quite good aren’t you? ;-) xx

This is gorgeous – so beautifully photographed, so many emotions captured, and the way you put it together moved me to tears. You didn’t just capture the birth of a baby, you captured the birth of a family.

Jane Packard

The first moments in life are so precious. You captured them wonderfully Kate. Images that I’m sure will be cherished forever.

Amazing… Made me cry… What an fantastic set of images for this family to be treasured forever!

These are truly stunning Kate! You have done an amazing job and no doubt these photographs will be treasured in their family for generations to come! Somehow feel very proud of you and them :) Well done you! xx

Kate these are gorgeous, made me v.teary & you captured the event so beautifully, Well done.

Jenny

beautiful

Love it!
Rather like a wedding though, pretty scary as only one chance to get it right!

Beautiful memories to have, I wish I could have been brave enough to allow a photographer at the birth of my two children. I regret not having done so!

festive family giveaway – win nearly £400 of fantastic prizes // surrey family photography

Well I held out until November 1st. But I just can’t hold in my childish adoration of all things festive any longer. Honestly, if it has fairy lights or the smell of pine trees about it then I’m pretty much obliged to adore it. If encouraged with a tin of Quality Street, I can almost recreate the entire party scene from the animated version of “The Snowman” – scottish country dance moves, gleeful music and all. It is quite a sight.

I’m letting out my joyeux noel with a lovely big bang and a fantastic festive family giveaway! I wanted to treat one lucky family to a weekend of christmas treats to remember – so I got together with the glorious gangs at the Yvonne Arnaud Theatre and Jamie’s Italian, Guildford to create one big, brilliant prize worth an incredible £400!

If you want to create the perfect start to your family’s festive period, this is the competition for you. And your friends. So tell them too. See below for more details and to enter for FREE.

Yes. FOR FREE. You could win opening night tickets to the panto, an italian family feast and a bespoke photography experience. So yes, it may be the 1st of November, but Happy Blooming Christmas!

But don’t wait to enter, because this fabulous competition closes on Friday 4th November. The winner will be drawn at random and notified on Saturday 5th November.

And if anyone asks, yes I do cry sad salty tears when the snowman melts at the end.

Oh god. You didn’t know?

         
 
 
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